Petua pelihara persahabatan

Berikan masa untuk sesebuah persahabatan tumbuh

-- Ia mengambil masa sekurang-kurangnya tiga tahun untuk mewujudkan persahabatan yang akrab.

-- Satu daripada sebab mengapa ia mengambil masa sehingga tiga tahun adalah kerana dalam tempoh berkenaan, mereka (sahabat) akan melalui beberapa konfl ik yang dapat menentukan persahabatan itu dapat bertahan atau tidak?.

Petikan buku Friendshifts, tulisan Jan Yager


Komunikasi asas persahabatan

Berbicara adalah komponen utama dalam persahabatan. Bila seorang teman menceritakan idea atau perasaannya, beliau mengharapkan rakan yang mendengar itu memberikan maklum balas. Jika hanya beliau saja yang ba nyak bercakap, beliau akan merasakan seolah-olah rakan yang mendengar itu tidak berminat dengan apa yang disampaikan.


Ya, memang sukar untuk meluangkan masa

Lebih-lebih lagi bila kita begitu sibuk menguruskan kehidupan sendiri. Tapi anda sebenarnya tidak memerlukan masa berjam-jam untuk memastikan hubungan persahabatan terus bertahan.

Pastikan ia berterusan dengan:


Hantar e-mel. Maklumkan atau tanya khabar teman anda melalui e-mel.


Hubungi mereka sekurang-kurangnya sekali seminggu. Perbualan telefon tidak semestinya lama.


Sekali-sekala, hantarkan kad atau e-kad kepada mereka. Tidak semestinya menunggu waktu tertentu saja.


Kirimkan gambar. Sekeping gambar menyampaikan 1,001 cerita.


Makan bersama sekurang-kurang sekali dalam sebulan. Lebih kerap lebih bagus.


Rakan Toksik

Seperti toksik, rakan jenis sebegini sememangnya berbahaya kepada kita. Kenal pasti ciri rakan toksik dan jika anda terjebak dengan mereka, cepat-cepat selamatkan diri.


Seseorang yang hanya berkawan dengan seseorang itu, semata-mata untuk kepentingan dirinya atau lebih tepat lagi, mempergunakan rakan berkenaan untuk tujuan tertentu.


Pengkhianat. Tidak ada yang perkara yang lebih memeritkan daripada pengkhianatan yang dilakukan oleh seorang yang bergelar sahabat.


Ada pula rakan yang terlebih memberi perhatian. Rakan jenis ini suka mengawal apa saja yang kita lakukan, seolah-olah nak menentukan cara hidup kita.


Kritik tak bertempat. Kadangkala kritikan mereka itu boleh menjatuhkan harga diri kita. Dia juga suka mencari kesilapan kita. Ada saja yang tak kena jika berkawan dengan mereka ini.


Pentingkan diri sendiri. Mereka sentiasa tiada masa untuk diluangkan bersama anda. Terlalu sibuk fikirkan hal sendiri.


Rakan ini sering mahu dilihat lebih hebat daripada rakannya. Walaupun persaingan adalah sesuatu yang sihat dalam persahabatan, jika melampaui batasan tetap membawa kemudaratan.


Terlalu bergantung. Rakan jenis ini tidak boleh berenggang dengan temannya. Kalau boleh hendak `berkepit? 24 jam.

Al fatihah

Sempena Bulan Ramadhan Almubarak yang mulia

Dengan nama Allah s.w.t yang Maha Pemurah lagi Maha Pengasih

beserta selawat ke atas junjungan nabi Muhammad s.a.w

bersama kita sedekahkah Al Fatihah kepada Allahyarham

Para Sahabat Nabi,Ibu Bapa,Guru-guru,kaum keluarga kita

dan seluruh umat Islam yang telah dahulu pulang kerahmatullah.

Al- fatihah..

Copy and paste dari : Qump online

JOM MENANGIS . . .

Salam Ramadhan buat semua pengunjung fotopages ini. Semoga semua ibadah kita diterima oleh Allah S.W.T. Amin.


Tahukah saudara semenjak Nabi Adam terkeluar dari syurga akibat tipu daya iblis,
beliau menangis selama 300 tahun. Nabi Adam tidak mengangkat kepalanya ke langit kerana terlampau malu kepada Allah swt. Beliau sujud di atas gunung selama seratus tahun. Kemudian menangis lagi sehingga air matanya mengalir di jurang Serantip. Dari air mata Nabi Adam itu Allah tumbuhkan pohon kayu manis dan pokok cengkih. Beberapa ekor burung telah meminum air mata beliau. Burung itu berkata, "Sedap sungguh air ini." Nabi Adam terdengar kata-kata burung tersebut. Beliau menyangka burung itu sengaja mengejeknya kerana perbuatan derhakanya kepada Allah. Ini membuatkan Nabi Adam semakin hebat menangis. Akhirnya Allah telah menyampaikan wahyu yang bermaksud, "Hai Adam, sesungguhnya aku belum pernah menciptakan air minum yang lebih lazat dan hebat dari air mata taubatmu itu." Sahabat, sahabiah & saudara. Pernahkah kita menangisi dosa kita kepadaNya? Sempena ramadhan ini, Jom Menangis menyesali kedhaifan diri, kelemahan melawan nafsu,ujian yg menimpa, dosa yg bertimbun & Jom Menangis mengharapkan rahmat & keredhaanNya. Jom Menangis selagi terasa kita belum diampunkan, selagi kita belum dekat denganNya, selagi rasa berat memikul dosa. Jom Menangis, menangis & menangis. Mudah2an airmata itu nanti mampu memadam api neraka yg akan membakar kita. Tuhanku, aku tidak layak, masuk syurgaMu, namun tak upaya menghadapi api nerakamu, terima taubat ku & ampunkan dosa2 ku, sesungguhnya Engkau mengampunkan dosa hambaMu.. Jom Menangis, merintih & merayu Allah terima kita & redhai kita.

Abang Long : Semoga kita semua mati dalam iman..sesunggunya Allah maha pengampun dan maha penyayang..

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new record for myfotopages

Selepas upload 288 keping gambar dengan 76 'entries' for first time aku dapat lebih 300 views
sehari dari lebih 150 viewer untuk fotopages aku pada 17/10/05 ...ade mase tengoklah hasil
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...tapi rekod baru view tu bukan pasal gambar aku tapi pasal aku upload gambar Siti Nurhaliza
tengah mengaji..terimaksih pada penyumbang gambar ni..

Siti ayu bila bertudung (Foto oleh Utusan Malaysia)Ramai yang sudah tahu kemerduan suara

dan bakat Siti Nurhaliza sebagai penyanyi. Tetapi berapa ramai pula peminat yang pernah

mendengar penyanyi popular itu mengalunkan bacaan ayat-ayat suci al-Quran?
Anda akan dapat menyaksikan Siti Nurhaliza mengaji al-Quran dalam satu program televisyen

(TV) tidak lama lagi.
Menurut Siti, ini adalah kali pertama dia mengaji untuk diperdengarkan kepada khalayak

menerusi kaca TV.
"Siti rasa gembira kerana dapat peluang ini. Ini kali pertama Siti mengaji di TV tetapi sebelum

ini Siti pernah mengadakan majlis khatam al-Quran semasa perkahwinan kakak Siti (Ida)

pada 1996.
"Melalui cara ini Siti dapat mempertingkatkan lagi mutu bacaan al-Quran Siti. Ini satu

pengalaman yang baik untuk Siti kerana sebelum rakaman dimulakan, Siti dilatih oleh

seorang guru al-Quran iaitu Ustaz Mohd. Taha Hassan, 24, yang merupakan anak kepada

guru al-Quran terkemuka, Datuk Hassan Azhari.
"Siti bersyukur kerana dapat bimbingan daripada anak guru al-Quran terkenal. Walaupun

ada sedikit kesukaran tetapi Siti seronok dapat menambah ilmu.
"Siti ambil masa hampir sejam untuk memperbaiki bacaan Siti sebelum rakaman program

itu dimulakan.
"Selain itu, Siti juga hadapi sedikit masalah daripada segi tajwid dan harakat.
"Bagaimanapun Siti rasa puas walaupun cuma dapat belajar dua ayat dalam program ini,

'' ujar Siti sewaktu ditemui selepas rakaman program itu di Cheras, Kuala Lumpur petang

kelmarin.
Sementara itu, Mohd. Taha berkata Siti tidak menghadapi masalah untuk membaca

al-Quran kerana penyanyi berusia 27 tahun ini mempunyai mutu suara yang baik.
"Siti boleh mengaji dengan baik. Dia tidak menghadapi masalah untuk melagukan atau

melenggokkan sesuatu ayat itu mengikut hukum-hukum yang sudah ditetapkan.
"Cuma Siti perlu berlatih lebih lagi daripada segi makhraj iaitu bagaimana cara

untuk menyebut huruf dengan betul.
"Siti juga ada sedikit kelemahan untuk memulakan bacaan, tempat berhenti atau

istilahnya dipanggil wakof ibtida,'' kata Mohd. Taha yang mempunyai ijazah

Usuluddin Tafsir dari Universiti Al-Azhar, Mesir.
Rakaman Siti mengaji itu akan disiarkan menerusi TV1 pada 20 dan 21 Oktober ini,

beberapa minit sebelum azan maghrib disiarkan.
Selain Siti, Mawi (Akademi Fantasia 3), Bienda, Datuk Sarimah, Nash (Lefthanded)

dan Munif (Hijjaz) turut menjayakan program yang akan disiarkan secara berasingan

mulai 19 Oktober hingga 2 November ini.
Melalui program ini, Siti memperdengarkan bacaan surah Al-Baqarah ayat 22

dan ayat 164.

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Salam Ramadhan

Imam Al Ghazali berkata,

"Betapa banyak orang berpuasa yang sebenarnya berbuka, dan yang berbuka padahal ber- puasa. Yang berbuka tetapi sebenarnya berpuasa adalah yang makan dan minum, tetapi menjaga seluruh anggota tubuhnya dari perbuatan dosa. Dan yang berpuasa tetapi sebenarnya berbuka adalah yang lapar dan haus, tetapi tercemar anggota tubuhnya (dalam perbuatan dosa)"

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Selamat Berpuasa

Allah Ta'ala berfirman :

"Hai orang-orang yang beriman, diwajibkan atas kalian berpuasa sebagaimana diwajibkan atas orang-orang sebelum kalian agar kalian bertaqwa. (Yaitu) dalam beberapa hari yang tertentu. Maka barangsiapa di antara kalian ada yang sakit atau dalam perjalanan (lalu ia berbuka) maka (wajiblah baginya berpuasa) sebanyak hari yang ditinggalkan itu pada hari-hari yang lain. Dan wajib bagi orang-orang yang berat menjalankannya (jika mereka tidak berpuasa) membayar fidyah, (yaitu) memberi makan seorang miskin. Barangsiapa yang dengan kerelaan hati mengerjakan kebajikan, maka itulah yang lebih baik baginya. Dan berpuasa lebih baik bagi kalian, jika kalian mengetahui"

(Al-Baqarah: 183-184)

Rujukan untuk hal-hal berpuasa di Bulan Ramadhan ..baca kat sini..

Kejayaan yang Seimbang

Untuk mencapai kejayaan yang seimbang dimana kita mendapat kejayaan di dunia dan akhirat maka kita harus perbetulkan qalbu kita kerana Rasulullah SAW pernah bersabda,

"Bahawa dalam tubuh manusia ada seketul daging iaitu qalbu,jikalau baik maka baiklah seluruh anggota badan kita"

"Qalbu adalah anggota yang paling penting kerana qalbulah yang menjadikan seseorang itu baik atau zalim.." dari m/s 114 Buku "Petunjuk Jalan Kekayaan"- Dr.Rusly Abdullah Ph.D

mmm dah lama tak menyanyi..

Click to see Video

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Pada 25hb Sept 2005,

di majlis Makan Malam Tahunan Guru-Guru SMK Pasir Gudang

di Blue Wave Hotel Johor Bahru , saya diminta menyanyikan satu lagu....

dah lama tak menyanyi hantam sajalah...

lagu

"Mencintaimu"

yang dinyanyikan oleh Jamal Abdillah dalam Album terbarunya..

Mencintai mu

Seumur hidup ku

Selamanya

Setia menanti

Walau di hati saja

Seluruh hidup ku

Selamanya

Kau tetap milik ku

(korus )

Hanya satu yang tak mungkin kembali

Hanya satu yang tak pernah terjadi

Segalanya

teramat berarti di hati ku

Selamanya...

Mencintai mu

Seumur hidup ku

Selamanya

Kau tetap milik ku

( ulang korus 2X )

( ulang korus 3X )

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CANCEROUS FOODS / PRODUCTS

SATAY LOVERS (BARBECUE)
If you all eat Satay, don't ever forget to eat the cucumber, because eating Satay together with carbon after barbequing can cause cancer.
But we have a cure for that... Cucumber should be eaten after we eat the Satay because Satay has carcinogen (a cancer causing element) but cucumber is anti-carcinogenic. So don't forget to eat the cucumber the next time you have Satay's.


PRAWNS (SUGPO) & VIT C
DO NOT eat shrimp / prawn if you have just taken VITAMIN C pills!!
This will cause you to DIE in ARSENIC (As) toxication within HOURS!!


PORK AWARENESS
Try this and see whether the pork you bought has worms. There goes with your "Bak Kut Teh" for those who love it. Most men love to eat this so watch out before it's too late. If you pour Coke (yes, the soda) on a slab of pork, wait a little while, you will SEE WORMS crawl out of it. A message from the Health Corporation of Singapore about the bad effects of pork consumption. Pig's bodies contain MANY TOXINS, WORM and LATENT DISEASES.

Although some of these infestations are harboured in other animals, modern veterinarians say that pigs are far MORE PREDISPOSED to these illnesses than other animals. This could be because PIGS like to SCAVENGE and will eat ANY kind of food, INCLUDING dead insects, worms, rotting carcasses, excreta including their own, garbage, and other pigs. INFLUENZA (flu) is one of the MOST famous illnesses which pigs share with humans. This illness is harboured in the LUNGS of pigs during the summer months and tends to affect pigs and human in the cooler months.

Sausage contains bits of pigs' lungs, so those who EAT pork sausage tend to SUFFER MORE during EPIDEMICS of INFLUENZA. Pig meat contains EXCESSIVE quantities of HISTAMINE and IMIDAZOLE compounds, which can lead to ITCHING and INFLAMMATION; GROWTH HORMONE which PROMOTES INFLAMMATION and growth; sulphur containing mesenchymal mucus which leads to SWELLING and deposits of MUCUS in tendons and cartilage, resulting in ATHRITIS, RHEUMATISM, etc.
Sulphur helps cause FIRM human tendons and ligaments to be replaced by the pig's soft mesenchymal tissues, and degeneration of human cartilage.

Eating pork can also lead to GALLSTONES and OBESITY, probably due to its HIGH CHOLESTEROL and SATURATED FAT content. The pig is the MAIN CARRIER of the TAENIE SOLIUM WORM, which is found in its flesh. These tapeworms are found in human intestines with greater frequency in nations where pigs are eaten. This type of tapeworm can pass through the intestines and affect many other organs, and is incurable once it reaches beyond a certain stage. One in six people in the US and Canada has RICHINOSIS from eating trichina worms, which are found in pork.

Many people have NO SYMPTOMS to warm them of this, and when they do, they resemble symptoms of many other illnesses. These worms are NOT noticed during meat inspections.


SHAMPOO
Cancer-causing substance in shampoos. Go home and check your shampoo. Change before it's too late... Check the ingredients listed on your shampoo bottle, and see they have a substance by the name of Sodium Laureth Sulfate, or simply SLS. This substance is found in most shampoos; manufacturers use it because it produces a lot of foam and it is cheap. BUT the fact is, SLS is used to scrub garage floors, and it is very strong!!! It is also proven that it can cause cancer in the long run, and this is no joke. Shampoos that contains SLS: Vo5, Palmolive, Paul Mitchell, L'Oreal, the new Hemp Shampoo from Body Shop etc. contain this substance.

The first ingredient listed (which means it is the single most prevalent ingredient) in Clairol's Herbal Essences is Sodium Laureth Sulfate. Therefore, I called one company, and I told them their product contains a substance that will cause people to have cancer. They said, Yeah we knew about it but there is nothing we can do about it because we need that substance to produce foam. By the way Colgate toothpaste also contains the same substance to produce the "bubbles". They said they are going to send me some information.

Research has shown that in the 1980s, the chance of getting cancer is 1 out of 8000 and now, in the 1990s, the chances of getting cancer is 1 out of 3, which is very serious. Therefore, I hope that you will take this seriously and pass this on to all the people you know, and hopefully, we can stop "giving" ourselves cancer-causing agents.


INSTANT NOODLES
Dear instant noodle lovers,
Make sure you break for at least 3 days after one session of instant noodles before you eat your next packet! Please read the info shared to me by a doctor. My family stopped eating instant noodles more than 5 years ago after hearing about the wax coating the noodles - the wax is not just in the Styrofoam containers but it coats the noodles. This is why the instant noodles do not stick to each other when cooking.

If one were to examine the ordinary Chinese yellow noodles in the market, one will notice that, in their uncooked state the noodles are oily. This layer of oil prevents the noodles from sticking together.

Wanton noodles in their uncooked state have been dusted with flour to prevent them sticking together. When the hawker cooks the noodles, notice he cooks them in hot water and then rinses them in cold water before cooking them in hot water again. This process is repeated several times before the noodles are ready to be served. The cooking and rinsing process prevents noodles from sticking together.

The hawker then "lowers the noodles in oil and sauce to prevent the noodles from sticking if they are to be served dry. Cooking instructions for spaghetti require oil or butter to be added in the water when boiling the spaghetti to prevent the pasta from sticking together. Otherwise, one gets a big clump of spaghetti!

There was an SBC (now TCS) actor some years ago, who at a busy time of his career had no time to cook, resorted to eating instant noodles everyday. He got cancer later on. His doctor told him about the wax in instant noodles. The doctor told him that our body will need up to 2 days to clear the wax. There was also an SIA steward who after moving out from his mother's house into his own house, did not cook but ate instant noodles almost every meal. He had cancer, and has since died from it.

Nowadays the instant noodles are referred as " cancer noodles ".

Please, pass these informations.

3 golongan manusia..

Imam Ibnu Taimiyah pernah membahagikan manusia kepada 3 golongan iaitu:

PERTAMA:

Orang yang mudah menerima kebenaran dan terus mengikutinya. Inilah orang yang bijaksana.

KEDUA:

Orang yang mahu menerima kebenaran tetapi tidak mahu mengamalkannya. Mereka perlulah dinasihati sehingga sanggup mengamalkannya.

KETIGA:

Orang yang tidak mahu manaerima kebenaran. Mereka perlu diajak berbincang dan berdialog secara yang paling baik.

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Suntikan vitamin C

Menyingkap sejarah suntikan vitamin C, ia dikatakan disuntik ke pembuluh darah lengan pesakit sebelum dan selepas pembedahan untuk mempercepatkan proses pemulihan.

Trend mendapatkan suntikan vitamin C untuk tujuan kecantikan mula popular di negara ini kira-kira dua tahun lalu selepas beberapa pengamal kecantikan di salun mempromosikan perkhidmatan ini yang dakwa mereka dapat menjadikan kulit lebih cerah, berseri serta melambatkan proses penuaan. baca lagi..

Vitamin C helps some of the most important body systems . It helps the immune system , the cardiovascular system , and even the nervous system !

It also helps skin , teeth , and bones . Bacterial invasion of cells that have at least moderate concentrations of Vitamin C is virtually unknown ! This is why Vitamin C is so important to resisting the common cold.
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Vitamin C is the only antioxidant that has been proven to increase collagen synthesis. Collagen synthesis is essential to maintain healthy skin. Studies show that collagen decreases with aging and that photoaging accelerates the decrease. L-ascorbic acid serves as a signal, relaying a critical message to collagen genes to synthesize collagen, as well as being a cofactor for two enzymes important in collagen synthesis.

Collagen is the main protein of connective tissue. It has great tensile strength, and is the main component of ligaments and tendons. It is responsible for skin elasticity, and its degradation leads to wrinkles that accompany aging. Collagen also fills out the cornea where it is present in crystalline form.
Collagen has very interesting amino acid composition. It contains a lot of glycine and proline, as well as two amino acids that are not inserted directly by ribosomes: hydroxyproline and hydroxylysine, the former as a rather large percentage of the total amino acids. They are changed from proline and lysine in enzymatic processes, for which vitamin C is required.

5 DON'Ts when you are sleeping

DON'T SLEEP WITH WATCH-Watches can emit a certain level of radioactivity. Though small, but if you wear your watch to bed for a long time, it might have adverse effects on your health.

DON'T SLEEP WITH PHONE-Putting the phone beside your bed or anywhere near you is not encouraged. Though some of us will use phones as alarm clocks, but please put the phone as far as possible. Scientists have proved that electrical items including mobile phone and television sets emit magnetic waves when used. These waves can cause disruptions to our nervous system. Therefore if you need to put your mobile phone near you, switch it off first.

DON'T SLEEP WITH MAKE UP-People who sleep with make up might have skin problems in the long run. Sleeping with make up will cause the skin to have difficulty in breathing and problem in perspiring. You will also need a much longer time to go into deep sleep.

DON'T SLEEP WITH BRA (FOR WOMAN) or UNDERWEAR (FOR MEN)-Scientists in America have discovered those that wear bras or underwear for more than 12 hours have a higher risk of getting breast or testicle cancer. So go to bed without it.

DON'T SLEEP WITH OTHERS' WIFE or HUSBAND-You may never wake up again....

copy and paste from : korokmu.eizil.com

Lesson 1- How To Charge Our Iman.

Assalamualaikum.

We are all Muslims and at times we wonder why we fail to perform all the commandments of Allah s.w.t. We are always at the same par. So, insyaAllah I’ll try to help on why we got stuck and how to escape. What is the drive and courage needed to perform. What is the right goal and what stops us from being better. Also, in deen, what are the values of dunia and akhirat. What is hidayah and why we need it.


Why you got stuck?

Syaithan. In all of us there is an inherent ( built-in, resident, given) element called Syaithan. Syaithan’s main task is to prevent the Sons of Adam from obeying all the commands of Allah s.w.t . Syaithan has cheated Adam a.s by persuading him into eating the khuldi fruit and caused Allah’s curse. He tried hard to persuade Adam a.s and knowing that Adam was obedient to Allah s.w.t, he cheated and persuaded Hawa a.s to get Adam a.s to fall into his trap. Syaithan had asked for permission from Allah s.w.t to deviate all Sons of Adam until qiamat and his wish was granted! Syaithan flows in our blood! Syaithan never sleeps! Syaithan has cheated Sheikh Abdul Qadir jailani, sufi of all Sufis. So who are we? How do we eliminate or lessen the effect of Syaithan on our hearts?

Nafsu. What about nafsu? In a Hadith, Allah s.w.t did submerged nafsu in the coldest Hell for a million years to test his loyalty. When saved, Allah asked Nafsu: Who is Allah? Nafsu said you, you and me, me! Allah s.w.t then submerged nafsu in the hottest Hell for a million years to test his loyalty. When saved, Allah asked Nafsu: Who is Allah? Nafsu said you, you and me, me! Then, Allah s.w.t stop the food to nafsu ( i.e fasting) and only then did nafsu succumbed and admitted that, yes, he is just a makhluk of Allah s.w.t. and Allah s.w.t is God. Nabi s.a.w said: Humans, if given two valleys of gold, he will cry for the third! In another Hadith, Nabi s.a.w said: The yearning of nafsu stops when earth filled his mouth ( i.e when one is buried in the grave ). Understand now why we kejar dunia all the time?

How to escape?

Syaithan’s main enemy is dakwah ilallah. In a Hadith, it was narrated that when a muazzin calls for azan, syaithan will run helter skelter as far as they could and throwing wind ( yes! farting)! The moment azan finished, they will come back and settle very close to the hearts of Muslims, ready to whisper words of sins and negligence. In short, to minimize the influence of syaithan, we must all do dakwah ilallah. What is dakwah ilallah? Just look at what we uttered in azan. Dakwah is glorifying Allah s.w.t, not what our mind seems to think of. Dakwah is not what PAS is doing. Dakwah is not what all Ustaz is doing. Ustaz is only giving lessons on ilmu. There is a big difference between dakwah ( inviting human beings towards their Rabb, Allah s.w.t) , dakwa ( judging and imposing verdict ) and dakyah ( following man-made constitution, organization, clubs etc). This is very important. Don’t be confused. The effect of dakwah is people come to Islam. The effect of dakwa is people run away from Islam. The effect of dakyah is people break up into groups, not united. Don’t be confuse!

So, to escape from the grip of Syaithan, you must do dakwah ilallah. Well, it is a big phobia because our parents didn’t do it, our society didn’t do it and even ulama’s didn’t do it. There is 60 ayats in the Quran commanding ( perintah Allah s.w.t) us to do dakwah. Some of it for your reference: Imran 110, Imran 31, Yusof 108, Ankabut 69, al-Asri and many more. So, how to do it? Just do it! Well, first you must give time. To learn anything, you must give some time. No pain no gain. Nothing is free. But what I am asking is just some time. Sacrifice some of your free, leisure time and go and learn it. Now, who is doing it in a simple, continuous, istiqomah, easy, peaceful, humble, systematic and “mujahaddah” way? Jemaah Tabligh. So, I urge you to go to the markas at Tranquerah on Saturday nights and just lend you ears. Between Maghrib and Isya, usually they will have a short fikir on our iman and amal. It is good that we gauge how we stand in the area of Iman and Amal. The talk is filled with fadhillat ( benefits ) of each amal. Also, it will cover the Greatness of Allah s.w.t, the sunnah of Nabi s.a.w and the great stories of sacrifices and examples of the sahabahs. Why the sahabahs? They have radhiallah huanhu, meaning Allah is pleased with their faith! Now, to be successful, shouldn’t we follow those who are successful in the eyes of Allah s.w.t? What are their traits?

Nafsu? To escape from the grip of nafsu, we follow the sunnah of Nabi s.a.w. A sunnah is the way of life of Nabi s.a.w and it is widely broken into the surah ( appearance), sirah ( way of life ) and sariroh ( the wants, dreams and thoughts ) of Nabi s.a.w. This is all called the sunnah of Nabi s.a.w. Following Nabi s.a.w is the commands of Allah s.w.t. Nabi s.a.w is the best example for all to emulate! Today, Muslims are confused between sunnah and sunat. Let them be! What is sunat? It is a Syariat ( law ). You do it you get pahala, you miss it, never mind. What is sunnah? You do it you are successful and if you don’t, you will be deviated ( sesat ). That’s the difference! As an example, look at solat. Nafsu says ahh pray at home but sunnah insist it be done in congregation at the masjid. Eating. Nafsu says eat, eat and show off. Eat in a plush expensive restaurants but sunnah insist we eat only when we are hungry and stop before we are full. Greetings. Nafsu says ahh why should I greet this person but sunnah insist that we spread salaam. Sleep. Nafsu says sleep but sunnah says do tahajjud. A lot of other examples but first we must know what is a sunnah and the fadhillat ( benefit) of each sunnah, no matter how small!. This you will also get from the fikir of iman and amal at the markaz. You won’t get this from anywhere else. In the markaz, you will see people emulating the dress of Nabi s.a.w. It looks awkward because Muslims have forgotten how Nabi s.a.w looks! It is difficult to follow the sunnah but it is the command of Allah. I was there before. I know the chemistry. Trust me. A person who talks but don’t do it is a hypocrite. In Islam, it is called a munafiq!. Do you know that the hell for a munafiq is lower than that of a kafirin? So, check where we stand, always. May Allah s.w.t gave us the light.

Drive and courage?

In dunia, material benefit and lust ( nafsu) will make us do what we want. To do anything for dunia, knowledge is enough. In deen however, knowledge alone is not enough. Knowledge can only guide, not drive. Ask anyone who doesn’t pray. They all know how to pray but have no drive to do it. In deen, we need hidayah. Hidayah is just like a light given to us when we are in the dark. Hidayah is the drive and courage you need but it doesn’t come easy. In Quran, al-Ankabut, Allah s.w.t says: Those who sacrifice in my path, SURELY, I will open the doors of hidayah! Once Allah s.w.t open the hidayah to you, you get will get iman. From iman, amal will come. So the drive and courage is HIDAYAH.

We all have hidayah but the types of hidayah are Hidayah Nasabi ( hereditary ), Hidayah Qalbi ( heart ) and Hidayah Khawasi ( evaluation ). What we need, what we all lack is HIDAYATUL NUUR. Hidayat Nur comes from Allah s.w.t. We all thought with ilmu, with being a Muslim, our iman is strong. No!. Hidayat Nur comes from sacrifice. Also, when we talk about hidayah, we must remember that it is at the sole discretion of Allah s.w.t. It is not given based on anything. It is entirely based on Allah ‘s discretion!. Proof? Abu Thalib, who is Nabi s.a.w’s uncle didn’t get hidayah! The wife and son of Noh a.s didn’t get hidayah. What we can do is to sacrifice our self, time and money for hidayah. There is no other way to get Hidayah Nuur.

Right Goal?

Our ultimate goal shall and must be to be saved from Jahannam and enter Jannah. All the other things we strive and get in dunia are mere achievements. All achievements are temporary. Without the right goal, i.e the permanent goal of a success in akhirat, then we will wonder in this dunia without any action to prepare for that goal. We will be lost. For Muslims without goal, they will be worst. They are lost in the light! Kafirs are lost in the dark.

Values?

To understand value, let me give you a simple analogy. If you give a monkey one banana and a diamond, which will it choose? Banana! Why? Monkey doesn’t know the value of a diamond. Same with Muslims. At Dzohor prayer time, very few will be at the mosque and most will be chasing dunia. Why? Even after years being a Muslim, most Muslims are not convinced of the values of akhirat!

Summary

Why we got stuck? Syaithan and Nafsu. How to escape? To escape syaithan, do dakwah ilallah and to beat nafsu, follow the sunnah of Nabi s.a.w. How to get the drive and courage? We sacrifice our self, time and wealth to get hidayah by going out in the path of Allah ( mujahaddah). What is deen? Deen is the whole surah, sirah and sariroh of Nabi s.a.w. In short, Nabi s.a.w’s way of life. Deen is not only the 5 rukun of Islam. Deen covers imaniat ( faith ), ibadat ( the five pillars ), muamallat ( business dealings ), muasyarat ( laws of Allah ) and akhlak ( behaviour ). So, without hidayah and conviction on the values of akhirat, we won’t be able to perform. We will be dead. We will be a Muslim by name all our life. So, do you want to seriously change?

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